The Power of Fun, Frivolity, and Joviality in Self-Care

Fun. Frivolity. Joviality. Who cares!? But seriously, who cares about fun, frivolity, and joviality?  The truth is, we all would benefit from caring about these characteristics. Recently, I was talking with one of my patients, Jane, about the importance and role of fun in one’s self-care practices. Jane made amply clear that her (scheduled) self-care…

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Why won’t my therapist tell me what to do?

Often, clients attend therapy with the belief that it is the therapist’s responsibility to tell the client exactly what to do to feel better and / or get what they want. To the client’s surprise, therapists typically refrain from giving direct life advice, leaving clients to ask: Why won’t my therapist tell me what to…

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Important Books on your Psychotherapeutic Journey (#3)

During a recent Air North (https://www.flyairnorth.com/) flight from Whitehorse to Dawson City, Yukon, my attention was drawn to a section of the Yukon: North of Ordinary (https://northofordinary.com/) magazine highlighting recent book publications. For whatever reason, my gaze was transfixed on a 2023 publication by Kim Hudson titled The Bridge: Connecting the Powers of Linear and…

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Why do I need to feel emotions?  

Lately, I’ve been rewatching the iconic medical drama, House, renowned for its abrasive yet brilliant physician protagonist, Dr. House, who tackles cases that baffle everyone else. While the show hasn’t aged gracefully in some respects, I find comfort in its formulaic structure, knowing that each case wraps up neatly by the episode’s end.  One particular…

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9 Signs Your Child Might Benefit from Therapy

As parents, we strive to provide the best care and support for our children. We want them to grow up happy, healthy, and equipped with the tools they need to navigate life’s challenges. However, sometimes we notice certain behaviours or patterns in our children that raise concerns. In such instances, seeking professional help through child…

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Boundaries: Empowering Painful and Pleasurable Conversations

Recently, I was engaging in a deep dive with a patient in my care about the discussion of boundaries. She had started a new romantic relationship and was expressing concerns about how to discuss “hard topics” in her burgeoning romance. In referring to content from Elizabeth Earnshaw’s (2021) book I Want This to Work: An…

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Hate Your Mother, Love Yourself

Over the last several months, I have been working with a patient (‘Bert’) on his unresolved parent wound, specifically his mother wound. Parent wounds are seldom discussed in psychotherapy but their potential for psychoemotional impact upon the patient is profound. The parent wound can occur for any patient when there has been a significant attachment…

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What is a Part?

Developed in the 1980s by American therapist Richard Schwartz, Internal Family Systems (IFS) has become an increasingly common therapeutic modality used by mental health clinicians world-wide. A dominant reason for its ever-growing therapeutic application is based in the uncomplicated client-empowering dynamic of exploring parts. But at first engagement, patients often find some confusion in what…

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Self-Connection vs. Self-Abandonment

Recently, I realized I was feeling hurt, alone, and isolated because I could not connect with an important person in my life. Admittedly, feeling an emotional response to the absence of connection is not an unexpected reaction; Often, when we stub a toe, we want to hold it. However, in the absence of my ability…

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Making a New Year’s Resolution Through a New Lens

You made it! After all the hustle and bustle of the holiday season, it’s time to sit back, take a breath, and enjoy the dawn of a new year with all its opportunity for new beginnings, fundamental change, living your best life… And then, it starts. Do you feel it? The self-questioning, the self-doubt, the…

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